Even as adults, many of us still may be puzzled by what we’re feeling. Often we weren’t taught to pay attention to our feelings or distinguish between them. Like seeing or hearing, emotions alert us to how we’re responding to events, or to the people around us. Emotions need to be a comfortable part of who we are, a part that we accept and value, rather than hid or deny.
I thought that if I could create a guide that clearly
explains each emotion and its unique purpose, then adults might better help children
know why emotions are important. We
experience emotions every day, so children need guidance in recognizing them. They need help learning to read faces or
body language that signal an emotion. They
need help in making distinctions between being tired or angry, or being really
afraid or just a little shy. Helping
kids slow down and make these distinctions will help them become more aware of
themselves and more sensitive toward others. Of course, when adults can comfortably express their own emotions, then
children have a model to emulate and will feel freer in sharing their own
emotions.
Dr. Candace B. Pert in her book, Molecules of Emotion: Why You
Feel the Way You Feel, talks about
the importance of expressing emotions this way:
“ My research has shown me that when emotions are expressed--which is to
say that the biochemical’s that are the substrate of emotion are flowing freely--all
systems are united and made whole. When
emotions are repressed, denied, not allowed to be whatever they may be, our network
pathways get blocked, stopping the flow of the vital feel-good unifying
chemicals that run both our biology and our behavior.”
Here's an interesting Bill Moyer's interview with Dr. Pert.
You can learn more about Dr. Pert here.
